Anxiety: The Elements Beyond the Obvious
Anxiety is something that as a society we are experiencing more and more. Sometimes, however, we aren’t always aware that the behaviours we are displaying or the feelings we are having are actually signals of anxiety. Anxiety is something that can be temporary or a consistent feeling and pressure in our life - so it’s definitely worth thinking about how often you’re experiencing these sensations to figure out it’s presence in your life. It is absolutely okay if these are things you find yourself doing or feeling, there is never ever any judgement in having an anxious moment. We have a few guides on how to manage them lightly and carefully, and that you can add into your understanding of your personal self care routines in times of need.
Silent Struggles with Speaking Up
Ever felt paralysed, unable to voice your thoughts or questions in class? Worried it might go awry? A mindful approach to this is to reflect on positive experiences when speaking up went well. Consider finding a safe way to express yourself, maybe through writing or with a trusted friend. But if it’s too much, focus on finding the calm in your space right there and then, it’s better to have some ease before doing anything to avoid making the situation worse.
Anxiety in Every Word Choice
If fear ever grips you when you’re talking, or you’re worrying that your words might be misunderstood or make you seem foolish this is most likely sign of bubbling anxiety. It can help in these situations to acknowledge your past experiences. Talk to someone you trust about it. Remember, numerous instances have likely gone well with not even a hint of judgement, and you can take peace in knowing that your anxious thought is not the truth. It can also help to imagine someone you trust and are comfortable talking to is there with you, part of the conversation, removing any sense of being singled out alone.
Resenting Self for Falling Short
Often there can be a pressure to be perfect. Whether its from external expectations, or societal standards, the relentless pursuit of perfection can lead to self-discontent. It’s a very common feeling for those with anxiety. It can be good to recognise life's ups and downs as normal, and to question societal standards you feel attached to. It will be tough at first, to embrace imperfections and remind yourself (aloud if you wish) that your work and you are absolutely enough; but a little reminder every day is one step closer to feeling that little bit more sure of yourself.
Believing in Silent Judgment
Many of us will recognise that little voice in your head that makes you feel like everyone is silently assessing and criticising you. Try to reflect on your self-worth independently of others' opinions, this is done best by being proud of yourself for the small things you achieve (i.e. getting out of bed by 8am = total win), or journalling about what makes you feel fulfilled - often it will remind you why your value is beyond the opinion of other people.The science really does say that gratitude can carry you miles. If you’re finding this tough to do alone, you can always seek support externally, through therapy or a trusted friends, discuss the impact of previous judgments and untangle them from your self worth.
Fatigue
People often categorise anxiety as a continual state of high energy and almost ‘skittish’ behaviour and attitudes. But more often than not it’s very draining, leaving you fatigued. Make time to acknowledge that constant worrying can be exhausting, so rest becomes essential in counteracting any anxious feelings. Make a point to prioritise your personal self-care rituals, and ensure sufficient rest, and you’re showing yourself some self love. It could also be helpful engage in activities that bring calmness, i.e. going for a walk or watching your favourite movie, to help counteract any sense of fatigue.
Stomach Aches
Regular stomach aches are not surprising for someone who suffers with anxiety. Whether is knots, butterflies, or genuine nausea , it can completely de-regulate your day. If it is persistent, it can be worth visiting a doctor, just to rule out medical issues, and seek their advice on handling it. It’s worth exploring stress-reducing techniques, and any inflammatory foods that might make it a little worse, to soothe the digestive system.
Anxiety's Chilly Effect
Anxiety's fight or flight response redirects blood flow, causing cold hands and feet. If this often occurs to you, and you know you have experienced other anxiety-based systems, take time to recognise this is physical anxiety response. Also, engage in those activities that promote your relaxation and warmth. It’s crucial to understand that your body's reactions don’t always align with the situation, so even though it might feel a lot, there’s plenty to ground you in calmness.
In your every day life, anxiety can cloak itself in unexpected ways, but that doesn’t in any way mean they’re impossible to manage. By embracing mindfulness when you can, and seeking support when needed, you empower yourself to navigate these subtle struggles, ultimately fostering a more compassionate relationship with your mind and body. Remember, you're not alone on this journey and we’re always here to help.
